Respected Sister Courtney,
I salute you for your intelligence and critical mind.
Let me remind you of something that you already know from the Qur'an.
6:101 Wonderful Originator of the heavens and earth; how can He have a son when He never chose for Himself a (Sahebah) mate? He creates all things (and does not procreate 112:3.) and He is the Profound Knower of all things and events.
[So, how could Mary have a son without a mate? God never changes His Laws operative in the Universe. And, three of the four gospels mention Joseph the Carpenter as the father of Jesus]