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*Keep Only a Few Friends*
By:Jaffer Kassam, Colombo
Date: Thursday, 19 December 2019, 11:03 pm

*Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem*

'Assalaamu `Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh'.

*Keep Only a Few Friends*.

Sufyaan ath-Thawri~(may Allah have mercy on him) said...

One foolishly compromises one's religion when one
kept too many friends...!

Having too many acquaintances diverts one from one's duty towards one's Lord...
for a person who has many friends is always busy socializing with them and fulfilling their rights over him; so he becomes preoccupied with people when he really should be preoccupied with his devine duties.

The ill-effects of being too gregarious can last
well beyond a social gathering.

Sufyaan (r) said...

"I might meet a brother and as a result, remain heedless
(of what I should be doing) for an entire month."

'A friend, (Sufyaan insisted) should be someone who
helps one to improve as a Muslim;
otherwise he is not worth keeping as a friend'.

Sufyaan (r) expressed this sentiment when he said...

"If someone is not with you, then he is against you."

Yousuf ibn Asbaat reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri (r) say:

"Whenever I spoke contrary to the desires of any man,
he, regardless of who he was, would inevitably become
furious with me...!
The people of knowledge and piety have departed."

Sufyaan once advised someone to test the character of the person he wanted to befriend.

Sufyaan (r) said:

"Choose whoever you want as your companion. But when you have made your choice, make him angry,
and then order someone to go and ask him what he thinks about you without him knowing
that you sent that person."

Bakr ibn Muhammad Al-'Aabid related that Sufyaan ath-Thawri once said to him:

'Direct me to a man with whom I can keep company'.

Sufyaan (r) said...

'You are searching for something that cannot be found.'

Ibn Ismaa'eel Al-Barzaanee reported that he heard Sufyaan ath-Thawri (R)say:

'Acquaint yourself with fewer people, and as a result,
you will backbite less (frequently) .'

And Sufyaan ibn 'Uyainah said...

'I once saw Ath-Thawri (r) in my sleep and I said to him,
'Advise me,' and he responded...

'Acquaint yourself with fewer People.'.

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