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Question to Dr. Shabbir, Polygamy
By:Abdullah BaShoeb, Jeddah
Date: Friday, 20 September 2019, 11:04 pm

Question to Dr. Shabbir
Sep 20 at 6:57 PM

Dear Dr. Shabbir,
I've read a part of your work and I agree on many of what you say, you are a man who use his reason and not blind beliefs, and who relies on the Quran alone as a discernment ... and that's definitely the right way.

I just have a question concerning your article:


You've said that the prophet never had more than a wife at a time. At first, it made sense to me and I've even shared this discovery in my own article about Aisha. This article is partly based on your own search, and I thank for sharing your findings with us, God will reward for that because you have contributed to allowing the truth of Allah to emerge. Allah is using each one of his believers in order to find pieces of the truth, and Allah is using his messenger to put the pieces together and to combine them all, in order for the Truth of Allah to fully emerge, and that the falsehood of the Devil to definitely vanish.

To come back to the object of this message, I was sharing your belief that the prophet never had more than a wife and that Allah does not allow polygamy. Until God has guided my steps to some verses of the Quran in which the prophet has confided a secret to one of his wives, and this one revealed it: S66: V3-4

وَإِذۡ أَسَرَّ ٱلنَّبِىُّ إِلَىٰ بَعۡضِ أَزۡوَٲجِهِۦ حَدِيثً۬ا فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَتۡ بِهِۦ وَأَظۡهَرَهُ ٱللَّهُ عَلَيۡهِ عَرَّفَ بَعۡضَهُ ۥ وَأَعۡرَضَ عَنۢ بَعۡضٍ۬‌ۖ فَلَمَّا نَبَّأَهَا بِهِۦ قَالَتۡ مَنۡ أَنۢبَأَكَ هَـٰذَا‌ۖ قَالَ نَبَّأَنِىَ ٱلۡعَلِيمُ ٱلۡخَبِيرُ (٣) إِن تَتُوبَآ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ فَقَدۡ صَغَتۡ قُلُوبُكُمَا‌ۖ وَإِن تَظَـٰهَرَا عَلَيۡهِ فَإِنَّ ٱللَّهَ هُوَ مَوۡلَٮٰهُ وَجِبۡرِيلُ وَصَـٰلِحُ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ‌ۖ وَٱلۡمَلَـٰٓٮِٕڪَةُ بَعۡدَ ذَٲلِكَ ظَهِيرٌ

These 2 verses clearly mention more than 2 wives at the same time, given that this verse reports an event which involves more than 2 wives at a time: بَعۡضِ أَزۡوَٲجِهِ,

And then verse 4 addresses 2 wives of the prophet at a time, which means that they were both concerned by this incident. إِن تَتُوبَآ ...the form of the verb "repent" is for 2 persons, the 2 concerned wives.

Therefore, I had to admit that in fact, the prophet Muhammad had more than wife at a time, and even more than 2 wives at a time.

At the beginning, I was bothered by this thought as I deemed this practice of polygamy as barbarian abd unfair... but I follow only the truth manifested by Allah and I do not remain blindly attached to my established beliefs, even if what Allah shows me go against my desires. So I've decided to let Allah show me the truth, and to accept it whatever it is. And then Allah has showed me that the truth of Allah is more subtile...and far more mercyful and fair than I thought.

The prophet has been appointed at 40 years old, and before that the prophet, was astray like all his people, therefore before 40 year old, he followed the traditions of his people, which were used to have several wives. This type of marriage allowed the Arabs to contract alliances between different tribes...therefore many arabs who turned muslim had several wives when the revelation has started. Therefore, Allah would not ask them to chose among their wives one single wife and to repudiate all the others, it would be unfair...Allah has allowed them to maintain their marriage, as they were prior to the revelation of the Quran.

But Allah has explained in a verse what is the problem with this type of marriage: a man cannot be fair with all his wives at a time, for sure, one of them will be neglicted more than the others, and this role may alternate from wife to wife over time...which is a true torture and is detrimental to the family life.

Therefore, Allah strongly advocates us to not engage in this type of marriage, but God lets us free to engage in this kind of marriage, and warns clearly about its dangers, therefore, those who take this path, are warned and if they want to remain as fair as possible, they shall produce much more efforts than if they were with one single wife....Each one his choices, and to accept the consequences of them, that's the rule of Allah. Allah clearly explains us the rules, and each one may play like he wishes with them and receive the result of his choices on his own life. As a conclusion, God does not forbid plolygamy, but does not recommand it, as it is a far harder path than a natural marriage between 1 man and 1 woman.

So, dear Dr. Shabbir, this is my point, it is not my truth, but the truth of God, in his Quran. For my part, I will share this truth and explain to the general public the arguments that I've mentioned in this message.

I hope my message was useful to you and I wish you the best in your own personal path with Allah.

Messages In This Thread

Question to Dr. Shabbir, Polygamy
Abdullah BaShoeb, Jeddah -- Friday, 20 September 2019, 11:04 pm
Question to Dr. Shabbir/Polygamy?
Dr Shabbir, Florida -- Friday, 20 September 2019, 11:08 pm