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Oh, My Father's Day!
By:Ejaz Naqvi, Nepal
Date: Monday, 17 June 2019, 9:04 pm

Happy Father’s Day, Dear Abbu, And Thank You For The Life Lessons

Assalamo Alaikum

I wrote a post last month to honor my mother’s memory last month. This one is for my father: Dear Abbu. I know you are in a better place now and have been gone for almost 44 years but I just want to let you know that I am so very grateful to you for everything you did for me and our family. Before I thank you for the things you did for me (like I did to thank Ammi on Mother’s Day), I would like to share a life lesson you taught me way back when.

I will never thank you enough for this lesson alone. I know I will never repay you for everything else you did, but would still like to honor you with the following thoughts.

• You loved me even before I was born. You loved me even before you laid your eyes on me.

• You fed me when I did not how to feed myself. You fed me before you fed yourself. You helped me when I was totally helpless.

• You taught me how to talk, and spent countless hours when I struggled with making a sentence. You patiently listened and taught me how to correctly say it.

• You taught me how to eat (yes, you told me to eat from my right hand if I tried to use my ‘wrong hand’, if you know what I mean). You taught me how to say, “Shukar Allah” (Thank God) when I finished eating. You also taught me WHY I should say so.

• You taught me how to walk, when I would stumble. You held my hand whenever I needed one. Even when I drove you crazy running around.

• You were not as “religious” as Mom was, but still showed me the way of God with your principles and values, that were based on the Islamic teachings and code of conduct. You taught me the right from wrong. You taught me by example. You lived a ‘righteous’ life however one may define it. You did not hurt people. You were always there to offer help to others in the hour of their need. You showed me how to be on an even keel, no matter what kind of bumps I faced on the road of life.

• You always reminded me how tough the medical school would be, and that the secret to success was not just being smart, but in working super hard- harder than others. It is ironic that you never saw me enter medical school, as God took you away just a few months before I entered medical school- a dream of yours.

You were the living proof for me as to why many verses in the Qur’an mention worshipping God (a fundamental commandment) and kindness to parents side-by-side, and Hadiths of Prophet Muhammad on the importance of parents, such as:

And your Lord has commanded that you shall not worship (any) but Him, and kindness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) “Ugh” nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood’. The Qur’an 17:23-24.

A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. ( Hadith: Bukhari, Muslim).

I know I will never be able to repay for what you did for me. Your love (and Ammi’s) was second only to God’s love. Your forgiveness was second only to God’s forgiveness. Your caretaking was second only to God’s caretaking.

But what I can easily say is that I would not be who I am without you and the way you raised us. May you rest in peace, in the companionship of the most righteous ones, near God, in the highest places in Jennah. I hope to one day see you again to say ‘Thank you’ in person, and will strive hard to make sure I am deserving of that honor. Ameen.