Exactly! Your qoute reminded me of this from G.A.P:
"Islam [Quran] considers men and women equal in all aspects of life, but in respect of the marriage contract, he has given a woman a better status. He has addressed the man by saying that if you want to contract a marriage, you alone are NOT equal to a woman. You should add a gift to make yourself equal to a woman. This gift is called dower, which equalizes the deficiency in a man's stature. Therefore the equation is like this:
- One may ask why do often men buy things for women even if they have no children (e.g. husbands buy jewels, car etc for their wives and seldom vice versa and give dowry) ?
My comment is that I personally think the one who establish a home is woman/wife (because of their emotional superiority) even if they have full time job/profession or have no child. As Parwez says, "home here does not mean a house of brick and mortar, or a kitchen. In fact it encompasses a pleasant atmosphere and peaceful surroundings which are conducive to the development of the finer sentiments." I think he means home = family life.
Actually, women are heart and engine of the family. So, men try to equalize themselves and reach the standard of women by their gifts/buys for them.
What do you think dear Jawaid, why do men buy and give more? because of 4:34 , or you agree with my comment?
(I believe 4:34 talks about supporting women ONLY when they are unable to support themselves such as when they have little child and are mothering for them. And I fail to understand why traditionalists suppose this verse say 'women are free from expenses of family in all situatuons and men must pay for them always' what is the logic behind this word?! So this verse cannot answer the above question. Please correct me if I am wrong)
And what was the deficency of men in the word of Parwez, do you know? Please tell me too.