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Re: orphans and mehrams
By:jawaid ahmed,uk
Date: Tuesday, 24 April 2012, 4:09 pm
In Response To: Re: IUI (Bilal Jamil, Oman)

I am shocked that adoption is only with blood relatives. Where did this come from? The issue of mehram should not enter the picture. The rulings by the ‘scholars’ about mehrams and whom one cannot be alone with is based on two verses, neither of which states that you cannot be alone with them!

4:23 The following women are prohibited for you in marriage: Your mothers, daughters, sisters, father's sisters, mother's sisters, brother's daughters, sister's daughters, foster-mothers who have ever nursed you, foster-sisters, your wives' mothers, your step-daughters, unless you have divorced their mother without being intimate with her. Also forbidden are women who have ever been the wives of your sons. You are not allowed to keep two sisters in wedlock at one time except what has already happened in the past. God is Forgiving, Merciful.

24:31 And tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and guard their modesty. They should not show off their adornment beyond what may be decently and spontaneously apparent. Let them cover their chest area with a light covering. And let them not their attraction be apparent to any but their husbands or fathers or husbands‟ fathers, or their sons or their husbands‟ sons, or their brothers, or their brothers‟ sons or sisters‟ sons, or their women folk, or their close dependents, or such male attendants as are beyond all sexual desire, or children who have no carnal knowledge of women. And they should not strike their feet or swing their legs in walking so as to draw attention to their hidden beauty and ornament. O You who have chosen to be graced with belief! Turn all of you together to God so that you may be successful (in establishing a benevolent society). [33:59]

I have heard [mentioned in a previous post on this forum] that an adopted boy of 12 or 13 was thrown out of a home he had been raised in because he became non-mahram at that age! What kind of humanity is this?

The only rulings are regarding who you can relax your dress code in front of and who you cannot marry; nowhere is it mentioned that a non-mahram cannot be alone in the presence of the opposite sex. The Mullahs have only one thing on their mind and if they do not teach themselves or their congregations that it is right thoughts before any other right clothing/company, then they will never achieve anything with their chastity belt rulings!

Anyone who adopts any child has shown what a true humanitarian they are, giving an orphan the best environment to be brought up in; the family. Anything else is sounding like the following:-

107:1 Have you seen him who proclaims allegiance to the Divine System, but denies it in action? [53:33, 75:32-33, 95:7. Takzeeb = To give lie = Deny in practice = Reject in daily life]
107:2 He is the one who repels the orphan, the widow, the helpless, the one in a lonely state. [89:10, 69:34]


Messages In This Thread

Adam, Earth -- Monday, 23 April 2012, 12:33 pm
Saadia Khan, Norway -- Monday, 23 April 2012, 1:13 pm
jawaid ahmed,uk -- Monday, 23 April 2012, 2:19 pm
Kalim-Ullah Khan -- Monday, 23 April 2012, 8:02 pm
jawaid ahmed,uk -- Tuesday, 24 April 2012, 7:37 am
Bilal Jamil, Oman -- Tuesday, 24 April 2012, 12:08 pm
Re: orphans and mehrams
jawaid ahmed,uk -- Tuesday, 24 April 2012, 4:09 pm