When your husband looks at another woman do you beat him?
24:30 Tell the believing men to lower their gaze, and guard their modesty. This helps them grow in character. Surely, God is Aware of what they do.
When he watches the TV and gazes at the women presenters and actresses, then "jumps" on you, do you beat him?
11:5 Oh, certainly, see how they enshroud their hearts hiding their innermost thoughts, as if to keep Him from knowing them! (Are they trying to live a dual personality? 71:7). Ah! When they cover themselves with garments of vanity, He knows what they conceal and what they reveal. For, He is Knower of the innermost thoughts of the hearts.
When he makes you work like a slave, think like a slave, act like a slave, do you beat him?
4:34 MEN ARE THE PROTECTORS AND MAINTAINERS OF WOMEN. THEY SHALL TAKE FULL CARE OF WOMEN WITH WHAT THEY SPEND OF THEIR WEALTH. God has made men to excel in some areas and women to excel in some areas. Men must see to it that women are provided for, and that they are able to stand on their feet in the society. So, righteous women are obedient to God’s Ordinances and guard their moral values even in privacy, the values that God Commands to be guarded. If you, the society, experiences rebellion from women against the Permanent Values, and they stand up against you, apprise them of possible consequences. Next, the husbands will leave them apart in their resting places. If they pay heed to you, seek not a way against them. God is Most High, Great.
[Qawwam = Protector = Maintainer. Nushooz = To stand up 2:259, 58:11, to stand up against, to rebel against the society, to rebel against the Permanent Values. Wa’az = To apprise of consequences 2:231, 3:66. Dharb = Example 13:17, 16:74, 36:13. Dharb = To stop 18:11, 43:5. = To embark upon a journey = Strike the road (begin to travel) 4:101. = To give examples 4:34, 13:17, 16:74, 36:13, 43:58. = To abstain from something 43:5. = To stop or prevent 4:34, 43:5. = To strike someone or something 2:60, 8:12, 7:160-161. The court of law will have the Authority to prescribe corporal punishment as for any rebel]
When he asked for a dowry, did your father beat him?
4:4 Upon marriage, GIVE WOMEN their marital gifts, a generous portion of your property, unless they forgo it voluntarily. In that case you are welcome to accept it as rightfully yours.
When women are not educated, not given their Allah given human rights, removed from the Quran [just like the majority of men], then how can I blame them for the way they are? It is not their fault, it is ours!