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Re: marriage to a christian
By:Dr. Shabbir
Date: Thursday, 12 November 2009, 10:13 pm
In Response To: marriage to a christian (isamel)

You need to study a great deal. (All of us do.)

"Converting" for the sake of marriage is an oxymoron.

"Iman" is not like the Christian "Faith" that you utter a few words and lo and behold! you are a Muslim. IMAN is believing in the truth with total conviction of heart and mind only after deep study and reflection.


2:9 They wish to deceive God and those who have attained belief. But they deceive none but themselves and do not realize it!

[Since reason is a faculty that has to be exercised and they have forsaken it, they are little aware of what opportunity of personal development they are missing. They live in a state of denial]

12:108 Say (O Prophet), “This is my way. Resting my call upon reason, I am calling you all to God, I and those who follow me. Glory to God! And I am not one of those who ascribe divinity in any form besides Him.” [We do not invite through blind faith, vague dogmas or by stunning your intellect with miracles]

Verse 5:5 is the one you requested. It follows below.

Dr. Shabbir’s Blog
July 4th, 2008
Question: Can I marry a Christian girl?
- Suhail Anwar

Answer: Dear Suhail,
You can marry any girl. The question is whether you should marry ‘any’ girl. Restricting ourselves to your question, please know that Muslim men frequently remember that the Qur’an allows them to marry women from People of the Book. But they often forget the other most important criterion mentioned in the same verse (5:5) in the Qur’an. And that criterion is chastity. At the risk of being critical, I must say the well-known truth that, with the dating practice accepted as the norm in the West, chastity is a rare entity among men and women in the Western society. In fact, this is an ancient sorry phenomenon.

Hazrat Umar, the second Caliph of Islam, had prohibited Muslims from marrying women from among the People of the Book on the same grounds. He used to stress on the word ‘Muhsanaat’ (chaste women).

Additionally, we observe that such mixed marriages seldom have a happy ending due to religious and cultural differences. Moreover, any children born out of such marriages live a confused life in religious and cultural areas.

5:5 This Day, all good things of your choice are made lawful for you. The food of those who were given the Scripture is lawful for you and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous, chaste women of the believers and the virtuous, chaste women of those who were given the Scripture before you (provided they do not associate anyone with God 2:221). But you must give them their marriage portions and live with them in honor, not in fornication, nor as secret lovers. (It must be an honest wedlock 4:24.) Anyone who rejects belief, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter.

[This verse, in addition to some others, excludes Muslim women from marrying men among People of the Book. The reason seems obvious. Jews deny the last two Prophets of God, Jesus and Muhammad. Christians deny Muhammad (S). A Muslim woman would have to hear insults against two of her revered Prophets, Jesus and Muhammad, in a Jewish environments, and against Prophet Muhammad in a Christian milieu]

Shabbir, a life-long student

Messages In This Thread

marriage to a christian
isamel -- Thursday, 12 November 2009, 7:56 pm
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Dr. Shabbir -- Thursday, 12 November 2009, 10:13 pm
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Zara Hum -- Friday, 13 November 2009, 9:08 pm
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Dr. Shabbir -- Friday, 13 November 2009, 10:15 pm
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Courtney -- Wednesday, 18 November 2009, 7:32 pm
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Dr. Shabbir -- Wednesday, 18 November 2009, 10:13 pm
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Abby Starri -- Monday, 7 December 2009, 12:44 pm