Rule # 2 is a good point. “The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself.”
If you cannot accomplish something worthwhile try the other opportunity. Feel ashamed about more and more of bad things, and you naturally feel more and more good about yourself. Some people consider beard and veil as a source of self-respect. But that’s like adding adjective to a noun to qualify for self-esteem that the world doesn't much care about.