I wrote to focus on 4:3 and not suggested to disregard 4:3 as you have mentioned. Kindly read my post again. As an ordinary student of Qur’an I am fully aware of the fact that taking another wife in the presence of first wife is not the Qur’anic way . I was throwing question only for the sack of improving my understanding of 4:3 for example people use 4:3 as an arbitrary clause or blank cheque but in my humble understanding this is not the case here are my few thoughts
Can’t we take care of orphans without having a second wife ?
4:3 uses النِّسَاءِ (the women ) and not نِسَاءً (women ) don’t you think that this draws our attention towards the fact this is not a blank cheque as the discussion is revolving around specific women (The women) and not every women.
The word خِفْتُمْ has been used twice in this verse don’t you think that Qur’an is throwing two options for believers
The word فَوَاحِدَةً (then only one ) is attached with the second option and 4:129 states that it is impossible to fulfill the condition attached with second option i.e. you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly
In my opinion if a believer accepts this challenge and thinks that he can maintain justice despite a clear indication of the quran given in (4:129) he will have to cross another hurdle given in 4:19 i.e any act at the end of a man giving a sense of compulsion to his wife makes his wife unlawful for him(and it is almost impossible for a wife to accept second wife willingly) . Can’t we say that contrary to common believe 4:3 actually closes the door for having a second wife in the presence of first wife and asks a believer to stay focus on the main objective i.e take care of Orphans
These are my few thoughts and I was throwing questions simply to improve my understanding and trying to find out the answer that what if a believer is able to remove both hurdles and his first wife willing allows him to have a second wife keeping in view the special chircumstances .
If my learned colleagues are of the view that I am not making sense, I will withdraw myself from this discussion.