I hope you are not planning to take another wife. Can Sister Umm Aimon stop you or you are talking to yourself?
Don't mind my sense of humor.
Why disregard 4:3?
Also look at 4:129
4:129 [Men who have been permitted a second wife for post-war exigencies (4:3) must understand that] You will not be able to deal equally between your wives however much you wish. But do not turn altogether away from one, leaving her as if in suspense between having and not having a husband. Fulfill the rights of each one of them and be mindful of God. Surely, God is ever Forgiving, Merciful. [Your effort is seen 53:40, and He is the Absolver of your imperfections]
I have not seen justice being done in these circumstances. Usually the first one is "between having and not having a husband".