Dear sis Brainwashed,
Most women I know are following their husbands and elders rather than using their own intellect which they are brainwashed into believing is subservient to THE men. So can’t do much about questioning anything, can they? So it’s simply too much to understand why hadith can’t be Islam but far far far from Islam.
The only time they flounder is when something happens like uhmmmm my husband is taking 2nd wife etc. Only 0.0001 percent of no. 2 Islamist women I have come across actually say it’s ok if their husband takes another wife…but with the heart they say or do or approve I know only too much. (99.9% out of them say they just can’t stop them that’s why!)
Even in this Arab culture. One of my husband’s friend who was getting married again after only 3 months of first marriage when asked why was he doing that and how his first wife felt about it, said “oooh they resist for sometime but after a few years they get USED TO IT.”!!! So they keep remarrying… It is known fact here that after the second marriage the first wife actually encourages her husband to take third one…Can anyone guess WHY??? :)
So don’t worry Dear no2 Islamist sis KK you’ll get used to it… as your gods (bukhari and the other men in your life) say so which you are used to believing in without questioning.